I have a client, Lisa, who had a horrible marriage and subsequent ugly divorce. She was finally free,but in a tough role. While not untypical, the challenges of single motherhood to teen daughters, including the financial constraints, job challenges, and general loneliness, rendered my dear Lisa a very Negative Nelly.
As she told me, this was it for her. She will forever be unable to find love again. Men her age are only interested in younger women, older men held little appeal and gave her a sense of life fast-forwarding she wasn’t ready for, and, by the way, all men are jerks. It’s fine, she said repeatedly, I’ve made peace with the fact that this is how it is going to be.
Her story was tragic, no? Sure, but the most tragic part of it was this: It was just a story. It was the story she told herself over and over again, every day when she woke up, when she went to work admiring a coworker she found attractive but who never looked up at her, when she went about managing home and her kids, and when she got into her cold bed at night.
“Lisa, is this what you want? Resignation?” I asked. “What choice do I have?” she answered.
Everything is a choice. Every story you tell is just a story. “Do you wish it were different?” I asked. As Lisa nodded through tears I talked to her about the meaning of truth, about the field of potentiality, and in practical terms how she can’t possibly know what there is to know about who she will soon meet.
I gave her the tools she needed to manifest something new. We ate pizza. We hugged and said our goodbyes.
A week later, Lisa sent me a text message about how she put her tools into effect and felt a shift in her vibration. Magically her coworker looked up at her! He began to talk to her, he dropped hints about where he shops and spends his time and also mentioned his upcoming divorce. “Good for you!” I texted back, “Keep me posted!”
At our next meeting a month later, I couldn’t believe my eyes when Lisa came up from behind me and gave me a hug. She was stunning. She was sparkling. I was basking in her light. “Lisa, what’s been happening? Are you seeing the coworker now?”
“Nope, he bored me,” she said. “What’s happened is I’ve met an incredible, successful, really sexy guy, and he’s much younger than me!” Lisa proceeded to share the journey she had been on since her mindset change began to materialize small but obvious results several weeks earlier. How she ended up meeting this beautiful Adonis, who has deeply – and quickly – become devoted to her, and her deepest gratitude for the universe.
The lesson here is to remember that limiting beliefs begin with the story you tell yourself. It is YOUR book–if you want to change the direction of your life, REWRITE YOUR STORY!